I drive a 5 series BMW in the snowbelt and don't have any issues. With the correct tires, the ice and snow is nothing to fear. You don't have to peel your fingers off the steering wheel when you get to work.
I have a separate set of wheels and winter tires ready for the first sign of the white stuff. I have tried a number of winter / snow tires in my 20 years with BMWs and the best that I have driven on is the Bridgestone Blizzak WS70. They provide excellent ice and snow traction without giving up all of the ride that I am used to.
We have done both ice traction tests on a skating rink and snow traction tests on the road and the track and they are excellent. So if you live in fear of the winter commute, look into a set of the best winter tires.